Monday, November 14, 2011

Is your spouse sabotaging your weight management efforts? Please RT!

Spousal sabotage is a common complaint.

Whether it's pressure to regularly eat out in restaurants, frequent gifts of hugely calorific indulgences, or worst of all, regular weight related derision, spouses can certainly challenge our best weight intentions.

If you've experienced what you would describe as spousal sabotage, would you mind taking a few minutes to help further some research?

Amanda Harp, for her PhD dissertation at Clark University, is studying the phenomenon, and perhaps, through her work therein and your contribution, we'll gain a better understanding of just what we're facing with less than helpful spouses.

Amanda's put together an online questionnaire. Have a peek at the inclusion criteria, and if it's you, please consider helping out:
"1) Have you been participating in a weight loss program for the past 5 weeks?

2) Have you been in a committed, co-habitating relationship for the past 2 years?

3) Do you ever feel like your partner/spouse gets in the way of your weight loss?

If so, you're invited to participate in an anonymous, online survey:

This survey should take approximately 30-45 minutes to complete. Responses cannot be traced back to participants. Any question may be left unanswered. Participation is voluntary and may be withdrawn at any time. If eligible to take this survey, you may opt to enter a lottery for $100.

Please direct questions about this study to Amanda ( or Dr. Cordova ("
Regardless of whether or not you participate, have you ever experienced spousal sabotage? If you have, what'd they do, how'd it impact upon your efforts, and were you able to figure out a successful way around them?

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  1. Anonymous9:03 am

    I was on Dr.Berinstein's program for 5 weeks. My husband insisted on buying pizza at weekends on all 5 weekends. Apart from this, there were gifts of chocolate. When I was not on the diet, there were no gifts of chocolate and no pizza every weekend. His pet name for me is moti saali ( hindi word - rough translation comarfat bitch).

  2. Anonymous9:04 am

    moti sali = fat bitch. I accidently typed word verification in there.

  3. Anonymous9:44 am

    sounds like your weight is the least of your problems, good luck

  4. Anonymous10:30 am

    My fiance and I are a great team and are both trying to make healthy lifestyle changes and reduce desserts to on occassion, among other things.

    However, mothers-in-law seems to keep sabatoging it. We have weekly dinners together that include HUGE portions that I try to refuse. I insisted on not giving me a choclate cake for my birthday (for me to eat by myself) and instead she gave me TWO chocolate cakes. And then I felt guilty letting them go to waste.

  5. When I was married my husband would do everything in his power to sabotage my efforts... how did I deal with it? Divorce.

  6. My spouse is one of those annoying people who can eat whatever they want and never gain weight. So sometimes he buys junk that I'd rather not have in the house.

  7. Alexie8:09 am

    This is a major issue for me. I'm trying to maintain a 30% weight loss, which isn't easy just eating normally. But he does most of the cooking and cooks very big portions, and then gets upset if I don't want to eat it all. That I can understand, but he also loves sugary snacks and fills the house with them. I have a very sweet tooth and it takes enormous will power not to eat them. When I finally do, he says 'ah ha! I knew you wanted them' and it makes me feel like I've 'lost' some sort of stupid battle.