Wednesday, December 14, 2011

Resolution Series Day 7: Construct, don't Destruct!

12 Days of Resolutions. 12 resolutions that will help steer you towards a healthier lifestyle, whether you've got weight you'd like to lose or not. 12 resolutions that are each in and of themselves extremely straight forward and doable. Some might involve doing, others simply thinking, and if any of them don't seem useful to you, skip on to the next.
Day 7: Construct, don't Destruct!

I've blogged about this resolution before.

This year resolve to ask yourself constructive questions, rather than destructive ones.

People generally interpret their lives through a series of reflective questions, and when things are going well, we tend to fall into questions like,
"What's my problem"

"What's wrong with me?"

"Why can't I just do this?"
And brains? Well, they're very accommodating. If you ask your brain to point out, "what's wrong" with you, it will readily and happily do so.

Self-destructing by piling guilt, anger and derision on yourself is no way to build a lifelong change.

If you want to change for good, I'd recommend you build on constructive, positive questions, because remember, your brain is accommodating.

So instead of the destructive questions like those above, when things aren't going well, when you're unhappy with your performance or the situation, resolve to ask these constructive questions instead,
"What can I do right now that'll help?"

"What can I do tomorrow to improve things?"

"What can I do today that I can be proud of?"
And suddenly, instead of beating yourself up, your helping yourself out.

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